Pre-Planning for Every Season

Every time I look at my daughters wedding photos I am reminded of how significant the color purple is for me. I chose this colour for my dress, “mother of the bride”. This deep, vibrant color symbolizes strength to me and on my daughters wedding day I felt I needed the strength that this colour afforded me. And anyone who knows me understands that this is one of my favorite colors. I find it has a peaceful and calming effect on me.

I plan so many details around this majestic color and hues of it.

If you have experienced a wedding or a large social event, the planning that goes into a Celebration such a this, can go on for months. I was honoured and had the pleasure to assist my daughter with many details, such as reception location, menu, guest list, her flower arrangements, and the bridesmaid’s dresses and not to forget the expenses. (My husband still frowns at our over indulgence)

Planning.

We do it for the holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and yes, weddings. Our life goes from one plan to the next and yet, despite the fact we know it’s inevitable, so many of us are reluctant to plan for our Cemetery and funeral arrangements.

Although I have heard people say, “Oh I’ll leave that for my kids to do”, “My children can do that for me, I have done enough things for them, they can look after this detail” or “We don’t want to discuss that just now, were going to wait, It depresses me”.

Leaving this responsibility to loved ones is a huge financial and emotional burden, which can be eliminated for them, and on the worse day of their lives they won’t have to make these important decisions for you.

Making a decision in regards to Cemetery and funeral arrangements on the day that a death occurs, can be avoided by taking a few moments now to discuss this with family, loved ones and close friends.

In some cases an illness is diagnosed or a death occurs and the family sadly will call me to meet with them, with no knowledge of your “final wishes”, which often occurs.

I believe that Pre Planning is a Gift; a Final Gift that your family will be forever grateful for; A gift that say’s that you care enough about them to do this, leaving a lasting loving memory.

If you have experienced a recent death of a loved one or a close friend, draw upon some of your fondest memories during this holiday season. I find they bring comfort to me, they never leave me, and they are forever etched in our hearts.

Often the holidays are a difficult time sometimes the whole season, I find comfort in my “happy” and “fun” memories of my loved ones. I take advantage of memorial services and candlelight service that honor our loved ones and they offer much solace and friendship.

During this Holiday Season celebrate and create some wonderful new memories with your family and friends.

 

Deborah VanPelt

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